This week we explored the theme of Pausing in our daily sessions. Bloom Pause is a community offering that meets remotely using Zoom. Each week we explore a new theme through discussion, sharing, meditation, and practices to improve daily life. If you'd like to join Bloom Pause, sign up here.
During this experience of COVID 19, the entire world has been called to pause. We have been stopped in our tracks because of this virus. We have been called to look at ourselves personally and collectively, at our society and our systems of power on a profound level. Personal and collective shadow has been exposed and continues to be revealed. Bloom! emerged during this time and in response to the felt call for blooming a new way of being and era.
Tara Brach has a chapter in her book Radical Acceptance: Embracing your Life with the Heart of a Buddha called The Sacred Pause. In it, she writes, "Much of our driven pace and habitual controlling in daily life does not serve to survive, and certainly not thriving. It arises from free-floating anxiety about something being wrong or not enough... Through the sacred art of pausing, we develop the capacity to stop hiding, to stop running away from our experience. We begin to trust in our natural intelligence, in our naturally wise heart, in our capacity to be open to whatever arises. Like awakening from a dream, in the moment of pausing our trance recedes and Radical Acceptance becomes possible."
The trance Dr. Brach speaks of is the unconscious trance of unworthiness that can so easily be triggered in any one of us, as we are all human and struggle with vulnerability. And, as we have explored in recent weeks, through the work of Brene' Brown, from her book The Gifts of Imperfection, we heal core unworthiness rooted in shame, fear, and disconnection by calling in the healing energy of connection, compassion, and courage to our most vulnerable parts. Doing so especially when caught in a shame story spiral is critical. Practicing the sacred art of pausing, as Tara Brach offers, is what helps us take that time out, that step back, so we can notice what story we're trapped in and its accompanying feelings. And most of all, by noticing through the sacred pause, we can activate a conscious response rather than reacting out of habitual patterns of a conditioned ego.
She goes on to write, "pausing interrupts entrenched patterns of interactions." And this is true for within, for higher self to part inner relationships as well as interpersonally, in relationship with others and our environments. "When the downward spiral of judging and misunderstanding is stopped, even for a brief time, it becomes possible to recognize the unconscious beliefs and feelings that lie behind the problem. Such insight naturally leads to making wiser choices." There is no more important time for a sacred pause than now, during this charged time in our shared history.
Group perspectives on what the COVID 19 pause has allowed for in their life:
Make a point of pausing each hour this week.
Make it at least 1 minute but doesn't need to be more than 3-5 minutes to feel the benefit. Perhaps do this at the top of each hour or at the end of each hour - no matter what's going on... perhaps set a timer on your phone for the pause prompt.
And, try these words:
In spite of my (insert whatever is going on for you in that moment interfering with your ability to pause...)
It is the will of my heart to be open.
I notice my breath...
I notice my body...
I offer the Light of my Awareness for whatever is called for...
for healing and transmutation to completion.
And, so it is.
Questions for Reflection:
In Bloom we grow,