This week we explored the theme of Core Enoughness in our Bloom Pause sessions. Bloom Pause is a community offering that meets remotely using Zoom. Each week we explore a new theme through discussion, sharing, meditation and practices to improve daily life. This week we focused on releasing living through fear, guilt and shame - the scarcity matrix, which perpetuates feelings of inadequacy.
What is your personal scarcity mantra?
What would letting it go allow for?
What could your bloom mantra be instead?
I didn't get enough sleep.
I'll never make it through the day.
I never have enough time.
I'm late. I am a horrible person.
I will get in trouble.
Everyone is mad at me.
I'm falling behind and will never catch up.
I have no idea what I'm doing.
I'm in pain. Life sucks.
It will never change. What the point in living.
I'm alone and lonely and can't see it ever being different.
I'm fat. Unless I lose weight and am thin, I will never be happy.
I'm not safe unless I'm thin.
I'm not safe unless I'm fat.
I'm not safe unless my loved ones are safe.
I need more ... money, stuff, food.
Having money is overwhelming.
I'm not safe having money. I can't be trusted.
I don't trust myself.
I don't deserve...
And on and on the list goes...
Now, after reading this list. Take a deep breath. And, consciously release any feelings even reading these above examples may have evoked for you.
We all have our scarcity, less than, not enoughness mantras that we say to ourselves daily, moment to moment in some cases. These stem from and perpetuate our personal, scarcity matrix. Consider what yours is and how it's impacting you to repeat this on a regular basis. Consider what life could feel like were you to focus less on this and more your core enoughness.
What we focus on expands. Taking this to heart - if I focus on believing I am a failure, I will become a failure in the way I experience myself and my reality. No matter whether or not my accomplishments and/or life circumstances contradict this. What we believe we become.
"This internal condition of scarcity, this mindset of scarcity, lives at the very heart of our jealousies, our greed, our prejudice, and our arguments with life, and it is deeply embedded in our relationship with money. In the mind-set of scarcity our relationship with money is an expression of fear; a fear that drives us in an endless and unfulfilling chase for more, or into compromises that promise a way out of the chase or the discomfort around money." Lynne Twist
The same is true for food, thinness, and the desire to control one's weight and body. When driven by the underlying feelings of fear, shame, and guilt, thin is never thin enough. And, our relationship with our bodies becomes the battleground, and food and weight control measures become the mechanisms for control and striving for performing, proving, perfecting, and pleasing.
These compromises are Faustian. They never actualize into happiness, joy, satisfaction or a feeling of true belonging and acceptance. Never. This perpetuates low-worth living - not the opposite.
Repeat after me: I am worthy now. Not if. Not when.
And, below, get a refresher on the Guideposts for Whole-Hearted Living by Brene' Brown ... cultivating the qualities of wholehearted living by releasing the fear, guilt, and shame-related beliefs, behaviors, and energy will help.