Cultivating The Mindset And Practice Of Finding Joy

authentic joy mindset Mar 29, 2021

Let's bring curiosity to this.

This week we explored the theme of Cultivating the Mindset and Practice of Finding Joy in our daily sessions. Bloom Pause is a community offering that meets remotely using Zoom. Each week we explore a new theme through discussion, sharing, meditation, and practices to improve daily life. If you'd like to join Bloom Pause, sign up here.

The mindset ( or safety strategy or defense mechanism) of foreboding joy is a powerful joy or vibe tanker. Something really spontaneous and beautiful happens that makes you feel great and then the next thing you know your mind has moved to try to control it, secure it, or has found the worst-case scenario of the situation or another negative possible outcome has caught your attention. This is waiting for the other shoe to drop. Or, this is worrying that something terrible will happen - most often when things are actually really going great! The truth is, it's vulnerable to allow ourselves to feel good, let alone allow...

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Core Enoughness

This week we explored the theme of Core Enoughness in our daily sessions. Releasing living through fear, guilt, and shame which perpetuates feelings of inadequacy.

Bloom Prompt:
What is your personal scarcity mantra?
What would letting it go allow for?
What could your bloom mantra be instead?


Examples:
I didn't get enough sleep.
I'll never make it through the day.
I never have enough time.
I'm late. I am a horrible person.
I will get in trouble.
Everyone is mad at me.

I'm falling behind and will never catch up.
I have no idea what I'm doing.
I'm in pain. Life sucks.
It will never change. What the point in living.
I'm alone and lonely and can't see it ever being different.
I'm fat.
Unless I lose weight and am thin, I will never be happy.
I'm not safe unless I'm thin.
I'm not safe unless I'm fat.
I'm not safe unless my loved ones are safe.
I'm broken.
I'm stupid.
I'm broke.
I need more ... money, stuff, food.
Having money is overwhelming.
I'm not safe having money. I can't be trusted.
I don't...

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Bloom Creativity

release comparison

This week we explored the theme of Creativity in our daily sessions. Bloom Pause is a community offering that meets remotely using Zoom. Each week we explore a new theme through discussion, sharing, meditation, and practices to improve daily life. If you'd like to join Bloom Pause, sign up here.

From Brene' Brown's book, The Gifts of Imperfection, her 6th Guidepost for a wholehearted living is this week's theme: Bloom Creativity - Release Comparison. The following is from her research:

COMPARISON is all about conformity and competition. At first, it seems like conforming and competing are mutually exclusive, but they're not. When we compare, we want to see who or what is best out of a specific collection of "alike things."... The comparison mandate becomes this crushing paradox of "fit in and stand out! It's not cultivate, self-acceptance, belonging, and authenticity; it's be just like everyone but better... Comparison is the thief of happiness.

CREATIVITY: We are...

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Cultivating Calm and Stillness

healing self-worth Mar 09, 2021

Letting Go of Anxiety as a Lifestyle

This week we explored the theme of Calm and Stillness in our daily sessions. Bloom Pause is a community offering that meets remotely using Zoom. Each week we explore a new theme through discussion, sharing, meditation, and practices to improve daily life. If you'd like to join Bloom Pause, sign up here.

From Brene' Brown's book, The Gifts of Imperfection, her 8th Guidepost for a wholehearted living is:
Cultivating Calm and Stillness ~
Letting Go of Anxiety as a lifestyle.

Anxiety is a fact of life. The point is to become aware of our anxiety, what triggers it, and how it impacts our lives if we are not coping with it consciously. We want to be especially cautious not to make anxiety a lifestyle. Also, anxiety, as part of the family of the emotion of fear, is contagious. Calm is just as contagious. So, we can unconsciously spread anxiety or we can consciously spread calm.

Brene' Brown defines calm as "creating perspective and...

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Bloom Play & Rest

self-worth worthiness Mar 02, 2021

Release exhaustion & productivity as status and self-worth

This week we explored the theme of Play and Rest in our daily sessions. Bloom Pause is a community offering that meets remotely using Zoom. Each week we explore a new theme through discussion, sharing, meditation, and practices to improve daily life. If you'd like to join Bloom Pause, sign up here.

In her research, Brene' Brown talks about 4 primary ways we hustle for worthiness - pleasing, perfecting, performing, and proving. And guess what hustling for worthiness creates? EXHAUSTION. Let's all take the play and rest more challenge!

The discussion we shared was on cultivating play and rest as well as releasing exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as a measure of self-worth.

From Brene' Brown's Book, the Gifts of Imperfection, her 7th Guidepost for a wholehearted living is this week's theme.

"If we want to live a Wholehearted life, we have to become intentional about cultivating sleep and play, and about...

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Bloom Intuition and Trusting Faith

faith intuition serenity trust Feb 25, 2021

Release the need for Certainty

This week we explored the theme of Intuition and Faith in our daily sessions. Bloom Pause is a community offering that meets remotely using Zoom. Each week we explore a new theme through discussion, sharing, meditation, and practices to improve daily life. If you'd like to join Bloom Pause, sign up here.

From Brene' Brown's book, The Gifts of Imperfection, her 5th Guidepost is this week's theme.
 
"Intuition is not a single way of knowing - it's our ability to hold space for uncertainty and our willingness to trust the many ways we've developed knowledge and insight, including instinct, experience, faith, and reason."
 
"Faith is a place of mystery, where we find the courage to believe in what we cannot see and the strength to let go of our fear of uncertainty... the opposite of faith is not doubt, it's certainty."
 

Pause with me today to discuss this important topic.

I also offer heartfelt appreciation to...

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Pause Today to Embrace Play

creativity healing Feb 24, 2021

This week we explored the theme of Embracing Play in our daily sessions. Bloom Pause is a community offering that meets remotely using Zoom. Each week we explore a new theme through discussion, sharing, meditation, and practices to improve daily life. If you'd like to join Bloom Pause, sign up here.

From Brene' Brown's Book, the Gifts of Imperfection, her 7th Guidepost for a wholehearted living was last week's theme: Cultivating play and rest and letting go of productivity and exhaustion as a status symbol and for self-worth.

This theme introduced us to the work of Dr. Stuart Brown and his book titled, Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul. He says, "the opposite of play is not work. It's depression."

So, let's beat the blues with more play!

He identifies 7 properties of play:

  1. It is purposeless so you do it for the fun of it.
  2. It is voluntary so you do it because you want to and involves freedom of choice.
  3. It is inherently attractive so you...
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Resilience--release numbing and powerlessness

This week we explored the theme of Resilience in our daily sessions. Bloom Pause is a community offering that meets remotely using Zoom. Each week we explore a new theme through discussion, sharing, meditation, and practices to improve daily life. If you'd like to join Bloom Pause, sign up here.

The truth is we all experience difficult emotions. Difficult emotions such as shame, guilt, anger, loneliness, despair, sadness, fear, confusion, failure, inadequacy, and the like, can feel the most challenging to hold safely. Having emotions is part of the human experience. Period. Try as one might to escape this experience - it's impossible.

I am personally someone who experiences emotion deeply. It's how I'm wired. I am also someone who did not have adequate support from my family of origin to learn how to be with my innate sensitivity compassionately. It was not validated, supported, fostered, or embraced. In fact, it was judged, demeaned, mocked, and insulted. Painful. And, something in...

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Compassion--letting go of perfectionism

This week we explored the theme of Compassion in our daily sessions. Bloom Pause is a community offering that meets remotely using Zoom. Each week we explore a new theme through discussion, sharing, meditation, and practices to improve daily life. If you'd like to join Bloom Pause, sign up here.

In Brene' Brown's book The Gifts of Imperfection, she offers 10 guideposts for cultivating wholehearted living. Each of these guideposts suggests letting go of something towards cultivating a gift... guidepost number 2 Cultivating Self-Compassion... Letting go of perfectionism...

"Where perfectionism exists, shame is always lurking. In fact, shame is the birthplace of perfectionism."

Perfectionism is a shield... thinking it will protect us ... however, it's really preventing us from taking flight and experiencing true connection.

Perfectionism is a mask ... thinking it will win us approval and acceptance...

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Authenticity

This week we explored the theme of Authenticity in our daily sessions. Bloom Pause is a community offering that meets remotely using Zoom. Each week we explore a new theme through discussion, sharing, meditation, and practices to improve daily life. If you'd like to join Bloom Pause, sign up here.

In Brene' Brown's book The Gifts of Imperfection, she offers 10 guideposts for cultivating wholehearted living. Each of these guideposts suggests letting go of something towards cultivating a gift. The first guidepost is: Cultivating authenticity by letting go of what people think.

"Authenticity is not something we have or don't have. It's a practice - a conscious choice of how we want to live... it is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's the choice to show up and be real.. to be honest ... and let our true selves be seen."
Brene Brown

Let's consider the root of the word authentic being the same as the word...

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